non-ADHD advice given to ADHD people is always like "here's one neat trick for doing the thing: just do the thing"

draw the rest of the fucking executive function

@gsuberland looks more like an owl to me. did you get distracted?

@dysfun it's dignity

@dysfun or cornstarch, I forget

@gsuberland How about "that plan of yours - I need to do some last minute changes." How does that work out for you?

@thor suddenly unable to do anything until the thing happens

@gsuberland gotcha - for me it releases the fury of ages

@thor also that

@gsuberland "Set a pomodoro timer to 25 minutes and then *just start working*“ is exactly this for me!!

@gsuberland
Seems trivial... /s

@gsuberland "too much mental load? Simply reduce your mental load by writing a to do list"

It's like they don't know that writing a to do list exponentially increases mental load for someone with ADHD

@schratze @gsuberland To-Do lists are just a visible record of failure. I have IBNUs (Important but not Urgent) items still waiting for attention from 2009. Important like "leaking roof which is damaging the door, walls and ceilings" or "unfinished insulation which is wasting huge amounts form heat loss", or "Parts I promised to make 5 years and two months ago, and still have the items the friend sent me to adapt". Or the tax return that I'm being fined £10 a day for not finishing

@schratze @gsuberland Honestly? TODO lists calm me down and make things tractable. I really like them!

Also, I'm extremely good at ignoring them. That may actually be my superpower.

@schratze @gsuberland A great way to start the week, write your to do list. Also great for a chuckle 3 months later, the next time you see it when it re-emerges and you can’t remember what week it was even from.

@schratze @gsuberland My to do is like 100 things full and 90 of them I skip to tomorrow while I accomplish 1 and add like 5 a day 😂 it helps me to not forget things but at the same time overwhelms me when I look at it + looking at it makes me have like 20 ideas what to dos I also have to add to it so I won’t forget it later 😂

@jens @schratze @gsuberland any tips on where to store all those unfinished todo lists and how to handle the guilt?

@schratze @gsuberland and yet I am sleep-deprived from total overload, don't have a TV, my next Youtube video is two days late, I have dozens of unread and unanswered emails. I'm self-medicating with 10 or more double-espressos a day (which is why I have time to type this)

@schratze @gsuberland then some bell-end tells me to make a h*cking list of fails to reinforce the sense of failure. Great. I've achieved at least 47 important and urgent tasks already today, so IBNUs don't get a look-in. I can't REMEMBER what tasks I've done, but one that I've failed is to complete my timesheet from last week, because I was too busy to remember what I did. Ugh.

@gsuberland do you have good adhd advice? idk if i have adhd but it definitely seems like i barely executive function

@unnick for figuring out if you have it, this blog post I wrote might help: https://codeinsecurity.wordpress.com/2024/07/22/a-list-of-adhd-symptoms/

for deeper info, check out ADHD Alien and Dani Donovan's stuff, they've got some good comics and materials on how ADHD works which can help you understand the details of why things are the way they are, and how to come up with healthy coping mechanisms that work for you.

@g4dbn @schratze @gsuberland I have a tv but no time to watch any of the 5 or so streaming services I've forgotten about