K. Ryabitsev
monsieuricon
2005: Oh, I was born and grew up in Russia. I left when I was 18 to go to college in the US.
2008: Oh, I was born in Russia, but I've lived my whole adult life in the US or Canada.
2014: Uh, I was born in the USSR and left shortly after it fell apart. I've lived my whole adult life in the US or Canada.
2022: My mom was born in Kazakhstan and my dad is part Erzyan and part Volga German, but I've lived in the US or Canada since I was a teenager.
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@monsieuricon Ah, part Kazakhstani and German. Cool.
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Aleksandra Fedorova 
bookwar@fosstodon.org
In many cases "Where are you from" question should not really be considered a small talk.
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@bookwar «where are you from» is a natural form the interest in different cultures and customs manifests itself when talking to people we don't yet know well.
of couse there have always been people capable of weaponizing any question into harassment.
and then there are people who abuse the defence against that to the point where any question can be proclaimed harassement and an innocent opponent canceled.
the world we've built for our kids :-(
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Aleksandra Fedorova
bookwar@fosstodon.org
I don't see a reason to bring discussion of harassment and "cancelling" into this conversation.
Maybe consider not jumping into a random conversation all defensive, when there is no one attacking.
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